The late author, Og Mandino, said, “In life we always headed towards a crisis, in the middle of a crises or headed out of a crisis”. In other words, if you are experiencing problems, you are alive and be thankful.
That may not make you feel much better so let’s talk about how you can make the most of the stress you do experience working in your public school district.
The important thing to remember is that everyone experiences stress, and if they can deal with it, so can you! When you can develop a system for successfully dealing with stress, you will have something that will be a dependable tool that you can use whenever you find yourself facing a stressful situation.
The three most common areas where people experience stress in their lives are coping with:
Financial concerns
Family members
Co- workers, customers, managers and bosses
As you look at the list of the most common areas of stress, it is interesting to note that people make up two thirds of this list. Successfully dealing with people is an art. The human race is composed of individuals who are similar in some ways and unique in many others. People’s values, expectations, upbringing, and a host of other variables make them different from you. These differences can serve as a stumbling block, or a stepping stone. The choice is yours.
Here are three tools you can use to be more effective when dealing with others in a stressful situation. First is communication. Most successful people are able to communicate with others in a way that creates a connection. Even though they may not agree with the other person, they are able to find some common ground or area of agreement.
The second tool is listening. When you can simply listen to the other person without interrupting them, you can resolve most disagreements. The real challenge is truly listening to the other person and not rehearsing what you are going to say to them when they stop talking.
Finally, the last tool is flexibility. Being flexible with others and not rigidly adhering to your own view point can allow you to come to a compromise and resolve the issue being discussed. One analogy that demonstrates this concept is comparing the oak tree to the willow tree. The oak tree which is very rigid and hard will lose several branches or have its’ trunk severely damaged in an ice storm. The willow tree which is very flexible will simply bend but not break.
So, by using these three tools: communication, listening and flexibility, you can effectively reduce your stress when dealing with other people.
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